Today, the world tells us that being in a relationship is necessary to be happy. It seems as though if you aren’t in a relationship, then you’re weird or unloved. BUT THE WORLD IS WRONG!
Lately, I’ve been struggling with relationship fantasies. I’ve been dreaming of all the things that could happen with the guys I really like. Also, note that I go to a public school, and relationships are sometimes emphasized by my fellow peers. I sometimes see couples in the hall walking together and think, “I can’t wait until I get to do that!”
One important thing God wants us to remember is that He has a time for everything. That is one of the things I am trying to focus on right now. We single girls and guys must remember that God HAS NOT forgotten us! We will not be single forever. When God created us humans, He designed someone else very special that would be a perfect match! Instead of trying to rush things, we should wait patiently for the Lord's timing.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”
Speaking of this, a teacher at my old school (which was Christian/private) once spoke a message with her husband about this topic. Something important that I have remembered is her husband saying that if his wife had met him a few years earlier, they most likely wouldn’t be married. This shows that God can use a few months, years, etc. to work in our lives and prepare us for what is to come! These hard situations we experience are helping us train to become better wives and husbands for the person we are destined to be with! (That is, besides God.)
Although being patient can be very difficult, I would rather wait a little longer for God to lead me to my future husband rather than just marrying anyone. God always gives us His very best, and by not marrying the person He destined us to be with, it is like we are rejecting God's best for us.
Now, you’re probably wondering, “How do I know who to marry and who God made me to be with?”
Well, to be honest, no one but God knows that answer to those questions. The only thing I recommend is to pray and ask that God will one day lead you to the girl/guy you were meant to be with.
One night, I had a dream, and as I look back at it now, I have a feeling that it was there for a purpose. I dreamed that I was about to get married to one of the guys I like— I was literally wearing a wedding dress! Before the wedding, I remember being in a panic. I realized that I didn’t really want to get married. This showed me that liking someone is different than dating them, and dating someone is different than marrying them. You may like someone, but try looking a little closer. Would you still like them if you were about to get married? That is the question that I asked myself, and I realized that it wasn’t worth it. I then decided that it would be better to wait for God to send me the right person.
We must remember that the whole purpose of dating isn’t to have fun, but to find the person you will marry! Dating is not a joke, and should be taken seriously, as it could lead to either good or bad things.
So, how am I dealing with all this?
What I am trying to do right now is work on developing a romance relationship with God. After all, He is the One who has done so much for all of us and He deserves to be praised!
Although this world is constantly trying to convince us that being in a relationship is necessary, what really is necessary is loving God and waiting for Him to lead us to the right person!
“To fall in love with God is the greatest romance; to seek Him the greatest adventure; to find Him, the greatest human achievement.” -Saint Augustine of Hippo
[FYI: I am NOT saying that being in a relationship is bad. It definitely isn’t. Just remember to put God in the center of it all!]
Thank you for reading and God bless! –Christina
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